If you want to be more persuasive start by listening
It’s a noisy world. We’re constantly bombarded with noise and chatter, whether it’s a commercial blaring on the television screen or a co-worker who never stops chattering. Such unrelenting noise can make quiet people feel uncomfortable and out of place.
If you happen to be naturally quiet, or even introverted, you might feel like a stranger in this land of noise and chatter. But there are benefits to talking less and listening more. Sometimes quiet people who are attentive listeners have the advantage. Here are some benefits of listening more and talking less.
If you spend time with someone who talks constantly but doesn’t listen (and doesn’t care if they interrupt others), you could be dealing with someone with low self-esteem. Because these chatty people lack confidence in their thoughts and ideas, they feel compelled to fill the silence with their voices — even at the expense of others.
On the other hand, people perceive good listeners as having high self-esteem because they don’t need validation from others. So, if you’re interested in building your self-confidence (and becoming less needy), work on listening more than talking. You don’t have to be the center of attention to command the respect of others. People love a good listener!
When you practice good listening skills, you’ll be better able to solve problems and build stronger relationships. If you want to be the best you can be, listen and learn. It’ll help you make better decisions in your life by learning from the experiences of others.
Once you gain greater insight and understanding, you can work together to find a solution that works for both of you. Listening also makes the other person feel heard and respected and reduces tension during an argument. It helps defuse stress and anger.
Listening also builds trust and creates stronger bonds and friendships. You’ll also develop empathy for others’ perspectives and experiences, which will help you better connect with other people on an emotional level, so they feel more comfortable sharing ideas with you.
Being a good listener has its own rewards and advantages. The ability to listen well can help you develop stronger relationships with others, gain new insights into yourself and others, and even improve your career prospects. Make a conscious effort to truly listen and not think about your next response. It sounds counter-intuitive, but if you want to be more persuasive, start by listening.