Our thoughts are part of who we are.
But not all our thoughts are the best expression of who we are.
Thatās why itās so difficult to resist negative thoughts. By trying to fight against them weāre fighting against a part of ourselves. And that part of us that weāre trying to deny refuses to accept that it doesnāt exist.
Itās best to not deny that these types of thoughts are part of us. Itās better to not indulge them, the same way we might avoid an argument. By simply not engaging in the argument in the first place.
Although our thoughts are part of who we are theyāre not exclusively mine or yours. They belong to all of us, because whatever youāve been tempted to do many others have also. Weāre all part of something bigger than merely ourselves.
Some people believe that if we donāt aggressively resist negative thoughts weāll be more likely to act on them. But this isnāt necessarily true. The way to āresistā negative thoughts is by using a bit of mental/spiritual Jiu-Jitsu. Just let the thoughts come and go on their own.
Itās okay to accept negative thoughts as a strange part of who we, but we donāt have to accept that theyāre the best way to express ourselves.